Congratulations to all who are to be married at St John's! The Clergy and the Parish Team will do everything they can to ensure that arrangements go smoothly when the big day arrives and that your wedding is a memorable and happy occasion.
Interviews with the Clergy:
Couples normally meet with the Priest who will be meet them on two occasions before the wedding rehearsal. The first interview is an administrative one to confirm the wedding date and time and cover practical and legal matters, including fees.
The second interview focuses on the words and meaning of the Marriage Service itself. The wedding rehearsal, a few days before the wedding enables couples to become used to the church building and to what will happen on the day.
Order of Service:
Couples are encouraged to have a printed Order of Service. The Clergy can provide a sample copy for guidance.
The calling of banns, a declaration of intention to marry, is a legal requirement in the Church of England. The banns must be read in St Johns Church on three consecutive Sundays before the wedding takes place. If either the bride or groom is from a different parish, then the banns must be called in that parish as well.
Photography and Videos:
No photography of any kind is permitted in church during the religious part of the ceremony as this can be intrusive and distracting. Cameras and camcorders may be used after the prayers have ended, during the singing of the registers in the Lady Chapel.
Details of the current fees are available from the Clergy, who will explain them in detail at the first wedding interview.
In the immediate aftermath of the trauma of losing a loved one it is a natural instinct for some people to want to phone the Clergy first.
Although the Clergy can offer emotional support at this point, they cannot assist with dates and times of the funeral as these involve consolation with several other professionals.
It is best in the first instance to make your choice of funeral director and contact them directly. They will provide advise, make all the arrangements, and liaise with the Clergy (and, where necessary, the crematorium) in order to establish the date and time of the service. They will take their instructions from you to be as accommodating as possible. They will keep you regularly informed until these matters are settled.
It is after that the Clergy will contact you to arrange to make a visit. Today the Funeral Service contains a large element of thanksgiving for the life of the departed and many families/relatives like to participate in some way. The Clergy are there to advise you how to best to do this. They will also take care of arranging for the musical requirements if the service is to be held in church, otherwise any music desired at the crematorium should be notified via your undertaker.
All costs involved will be handled by your funeral director.
The funeral directors most closely involved with funerals/cremations from this parish are:
Bakers Funeral Directors: 01245 221100
A.G.Smith: 01621 854293
T. Pennack and Sons: 01245 471157
Co-operative Funeral Services Limited: 01245 353978
Please note that church ministers are not involved in Green/Woodland Burials.
Churchyard is subject to Diocesan Regulations concerning types of memorial and accompanying inscriptions. A copy of the regulations is on public display in the Church Porch on the notice board beneath the belfry staircase. Again your funeral director, who is familiar with these regulations, will be able to give you help and advice.
Your child's baptism
Your child's baptism will normally take place during the main Sunday service (usually in the morning). This is so that your child can be seen to be joining the family of the Church and be welcomed into membership. In turn the Church will promise to support and pray for you and your child.
The priest will make sure you know where to sit and when you need to move. Some parts of the service will be for the whole congregation to join in, some will be for you and the godparents.
Part of the baptism service will normally take place at the front of the church, but for the baptism itself, parents and godparents are usually be asked by the priest to gather around the font. (The font is a large basin on a pedestal, containing the water for baptism.)
The priest will ask the parents and godparents to make declarations on behalf of the child.
Making decisions and promises
When you bring your child for baptism, you will be asked to declare publicly on behalf of your child that you believe in God and that you will bring your child up to follow Jesus.
You will be asked to answer, on your child's behalf, that you have decided to turn away from everything which is evil or sinful and instead to turn towards Christ.
The declarations made by you and the child's godparents will be made in front of the church congregation; the local Christian community will promise to support you and pray for you and your child.
Symbols and actions used during the service
A number of important symbols and actions will be used during the service itself:
The sign of the cross - the priest will make the sign of the cross on your child's forehead. This is like an invisible badge to show that Christians are united with Christ and must not be ashamed to stand up for their faith in him.
The priest says:
Christ claims you for his own.
Receive the sign of his cross.
Do not be ashamed to confess the faith of Christ crucified.
The priest may also invite you and the godparents to sign the cross on the child's forehead after he or she has done so.
Water - the priest will pour water on your child's head. Water is a sign of washing and cleansing. In baptism it is a sign of being washed free from sin and beginning a new life with God.
Water is a sign of life, but also a symbol of death. When we are baptised, it is as though our old life is buried in the waters (like drowning) and we are raised to new life with Christ.
Anointing - after baptism in water, the minister may put the christening robe on the child and anoint him or her with oil. This is a sign of the outpouring of God's Holy Spirit.
The priest says:
May God, who has received you by baptism into his Church, pour upon you the riches of his grace, that within the company of Christ's pilgrim people you may daily be renewed by his anointing Spirit, and come to the inheritance of the saints in glory.
The baptism welcome - the church congregation will say some formal words of welcome to acknowledge that you child has joined the Church and to show how pleased they are to have you among them.
Candles - Jesus is the Light of the World. A large candle may be lit in the church and you may also be given a lighted candle at the end of the service as a reminder of the light which has come into your child's life.
It is up to you, the child's godparents and the church community to help your child reject the world of darkness and follow a way of life that reflects goodness and light and shares this light with others.
The role of godparents
Godparents make the same promises on behalf of the child being baptised as parents. Godparents promise to pray and support the child and to help the parents to bring up the child in the Christian faith. It is an important and responsible role.
You should have at least three godparents: two of the same sex as the child and one of the opposite sex. Godparents can be family members or friends. However, it is important that you choose people who will take an interest in your child's spiritual welfare and who will pray for you and your child. Godparents must themselves be baptised, and should also be confirmed.
You may wish to ask your parish priest about having a service of Thanksgiving for the Gift of a Child. In this service, you thank God for the gift of your child and the child is blessed. You do not make the same promises as in the Baptism service.
If you choose to have a Thanksgiving, you may also have a Baptism service for your child at a later date.